In light of yesterday’s tragic events that unfolded in London, I wanted to write a post today highlighting the importance of ‘living in the now‘ – something that I am learning to do every day.
We know our futures aren’t guaranteed, yet we don’t always pay full attention to that, do we?! As yesterday proves, and many other tragedies.. your life can be taken from you in the blink of an eye – you simply have no control over it. Unlike many people, I welcome change. 3 Primary Schools and 12 address’ down you could say that I am used to it! It’s what I know so I find it very difficult to be content and live in the present.. I’m always like ‘right, what’s next’ – & I find it frustratingly sad that I am like that to be honest. I have everything that I could have ever dreamed of yet I am always banging on to the boyfriend ‘ So, when will we plan for the next baby, how long do you reckon we will stay in this house for, shall we get a dog? Ok, but what about a cat?, I understand what your saying so what about a tortoise?’
It isn’t that I am unhappy – not by a long mile. I have everything that I could have ever dreamed of however like all children growing up our future was out of our control. Not having control over my future makes me feel uneasy. So much so, I am so focused on the future and what is going to happen, that I don’t fully appreciate the present as much as I should. I spend so much time worrying about the future which is just ridiculous because there is only so much control we can have over it anyway, so what is the point in worrying about it? So I have been thinking (and googling) how exactly we can make ourselves live in the moment more, and it seems in order to do (and love it) we need to make a few teeny changes and alterations;
- Be happy in your work life – I’d say this is pretty obvious but most fundamental. Ok, so we are all guilty of wishing our days away for the weekend but huuuuugely more so in a job that you aren’t happy with and that can be soul destroying.
- Watch the news – Honestly, I used to be so naive and narrow minded growing up however now I am older my eyes are wide open. I eased in with ‘Mail Online, showbiz’ and now I have broadened my horizons to ‘proper news’ – it keeps me so grounded and appreciative for what I have and really puts life into perspective
- If your gonna forgive learn to forget. If you can’t learn to forget you cant fully be in the present. Let go of any resentment – it only makes you worry more about the future and what may happen.
- Dream about the future but work hard today
- When you’re talking to someone focus on being present. Don’t allow your mind to wander.
- Tackle any problems that put your mind into the future; addictions, debts, ongoing issues
- Embrace the unpredictability of life
- Keep a perspective
- Be realistic
- Drop the fear and trust that if anything bad was to occur in the future, you have the inner strength and coping mechanisms to tackle it. I see people who have been dealt the worst hand in life, but they still wake up with a smile everyday. Worrying about what could happen isn’t going to stop it happening.
I think Winston Churchill hit the nail on the head when he once said “When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.”