Self Respect, Self Worth, Self Confidence and Self Love all start with self. Stop looking outside of yourself for your value.
Validity and reassurance are two things that I often seek. Actually, I think they are two things that alot of us seek.
I am constantly on a journey with myself – getting to know myself, bettering’ myself & understanding myself. Over the past few months I have learnt to do alot of self talk. I react in the heat of the moment & I am a worrier through and through so can easily work myself up in rage. There are three men that really know how to handle me when I’m like this, and funnily enough they are the ones that press my buttons the most!
Since I have been putting self talk into action I am so much more calmer & happier and am very much living by the 5 by 5 rule; If its not gonna matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes upset about it’
It’s all about picking and choosing your battles. In the grand scheme of things does it really matter?!
So, I have managed to master that, now my next task; Self Confidence, and I’m prettttty sure that is something that you can build on too? Am I right, orrr?! I may be wrong but I am pretty sure that it is something that some of you struggle with in one way or another be it personal life or working life.
I for one am never bloody happy. You only have to look at the different hair styles and colours / piercings I have had over the years – I look different in every picture. I am very much happy and content with myself from the inside and can confidently say I have a good heart & that I am a very loyal friend however on the outside I would quite happily have a Breast Enlargement, my feet shortened, nose job, bottom teeth straightened and as it stands with my short hair that I happily had cut off a few months ago.. I would like long again so therefore am attempting to grow it (until a couple of weeks time when I want it short again) – honestly I stress myself out. I cry before interviews, it took me 4/5 times to pass my driving test from nerves & I massively doubt my capabilities.
I could talk the arse off of a donkey and am not afraid to make friends so I know inside I have the confidence because I know my intentions are always true however I know I make things easier for myself in alot of situations by playing it safe. Something that has inspired me to really grow a pair has been ‘International Women’s Day’ – there are so many women out there that aren’t afraid to let their strong personalities shine through and be successful – just be strong independent women and it has really inspired me. I have always had an air of independence about me because I have always had to be however after having Joseph I kind of lost that. I think alot of it was having to depend on the other half & that wasn’t something that came easy to me. I have paid my way since the age of 14, so having to rely on him and receiving Maternity Pay from the Government made me feel a bit uneasy and lose my bit of independence. This is something that is slowly making a comeback though. I am standing back on my own two feet again and it feels goooooood. Now it’s the confidence that I am working on. I always think how lucky I am to have a job, boyfriend, friends etc which is true beyond words however I am now trying trying to change my mindset to mirror my reflection; they are also very lucky to have me because I am worthy of it all – we all are.
You are good enough.
There is a fine line between arrogance and confidence so we have to remember not to lose ourselves along the way. Shyness can be endearing and over confidence can be irritating so it is about finding a nice balance in between the two. SO many people inspire me, hence why I am taking some actions so that I can inspire other people – I wan’t to inspire you to do the same because you are worthy. Don’t sit in peoples shadows. It may feel more comfortable to sit in the background but you owe it to yourself to step forward. I look back at certain situations sometimes and get annoyed with myself how I dealt with them; ‘why didn’t I stand up for myself’ ‘why didn’t I have the confidence to act in a certain way’ and I get frustrated with myself. I don’t want that happening a few years down the line which is why I’m putting thoughts into action and doing something about it. Let’s do this together!
Self confidence is the best outfit you can wear so rock it.